How do I know if I’m gay or bi?

How do I know whether I'm gay or bi?

It can be difficult to figure out whether you’re gay or bisexual. But the good news is… you don’t have to!

When I first came out, I didn’t tell people I was a lesbian. Instead, I told them that I was “dating a girl”. Looking back, this was probably my way of admitting to people – and to myself – that I didn’t know exactly how I identified. I knew I liked girls, but a big part of me was still attracted to men. In short, I was confused.

But I quickly learned that this confusion is something that many other people within the LGBTQ+ community deal with. It’s really easy to feel unsure about your sexuality, especially when others take it upon themselves to label you in ways you don’t resonate with. The noise and pressure of it all can be overwhelming, and it can cause you to question who you are and what you desire – even if the answer is right under your nose!

The easy answer here is this: drown out all that noise and pressure with your own truth. Even if you aren’t quite sure whether you’re gay or bi (or straight, or asexual, etc.), there’s absolutely no rush for you to figure it out. Some people never really know, and that’s okay! The important thing is that you’re happy with who you are and who you choose to spend your life with. If you feel drawn to someone, don’t let something as trivial as a label hold you back from being with that person. The beauty of sexuality is that it’s fluid!

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