How can you tell if someone’s a lesbian?

How can you tell if someone's a lesbian?

Contrary to popular belief, you can’t actually tell if someone’s a lesbian just by looking at them… here’s why.

Unfortunately, lesbians don’t come with rainbow stickers on our foreheads or labels on our chests. But, then again, neither do straight people. The only way to determine anyone’s sexuality is to hear it straight from their mouth.

I wasn’t immersed in the lesbian dating scene for long, and during my short stint of it, I was actively on Tinder. Dating apps are handy whether you’re a lesbian or not, because they help you narrow your search preferences. But if you’re not into seeking companionship online, don’t fret. Most of the women Faith dated, myself included, were found the old fashioned way. In other words, she stumbled upon them naturally thanks to fate and coincidence alone. And how did she know they were interested in women? She asked them, or they offered the information willingly. There was no guesswork involved, and that’s the way it should be.

My point is, if you’re looking for women to date, all you can do is put yourself out there. Be out and proud, and the right person will come along eventually. If you meet someone and you aren’t sure about their identity, never assume — just ask them, or wait for them to tell you.

For those of you who aren’t interested in dating and just want to hone your “gaydar”, I don’t have much to offer you. While some lesbians have a specific, stereotypical look, others blend right in. Either way, I have to say… it doesn’t really matter. Stop hunting lesbians and start living your life. People are people, my friend.

Emily WatsonLGBTQ+Comment