Why do some lesbians dress androgynously?
Lesbians that embrace a more androgynous style don’t typically want to be any less female, they simply want to be less feminine… and yes, there’s a huge difference.
Androgyny is the combination of masculine and feminine characteristics into an ambiguous form. It can manifest in someone’s gender expression or sexual identity; for instance, a butch lesbian who has short hair and embraces a more “masculine” style might identify as androgynous. But it’s important to understand that androgynous lesbians aren’t interested in being any less “female”, they’re just interested in being a little less “feminine”.
Faith considers herself a soft butch with androgynous tendencies. Without delving too deep into this label, it basically means that she prefers to wear pants and plaids than dresses and pantyhose. Why? Not because she wants to be a man, or even look like one. She chooses to dress the way she dresses because she happens to feel more comfortable in clothes that break the traditional heteronormative styles that we’ve grown accustomed to.
It’s easy to assume (and many people do), that some lesbians choose to dress androgynously because they think it’ll make them more appealing to other lesbians. But here’s a newsflash for you: lesbians are attracted to women, not clothing. I’m not attracted to Faith because she dresses the way she does, or because she has short hair. In fact, if she decided tomorrow to buy a long wig and dress like Lady Gaga, I’d love her just the same.
And no matter what someone wears – jeans, heels, blouses, work boots, ball caps, beanies, fishnets or cardigans – their identity is still whatever the heck they want it to be.
The bottom line? A lesbian who chooses to rock a less feminine look isn’t interested in looking like a man. She’s interested in looking like the badass, unique individual that she is.